Partners, Spouses or Wives of Sex Addicts
If you are a partner of a sex addict, I can help you find your way.
Do you feel traumatized after learning that your partner has been using pornography, cybersex, strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes or having repeated affairs?
Just learning or accepting that your partner is addicted to sex?
Consumed with rage, betrayal, rejection, fear and shame?
Have you sought help only to end up feeling blamed and discouraged?
When the person you love is showing signs of sexual addiction– or admits to — a problem with compulsive sexual behavior, you may be bombarded with chaotic emotions all at once.
- Consumed with tremendous humiliation, betrayal and a shattering of trust
- A sense of being trapped in a nightmare
- Feeling desperate to keep it secret but an urgency to talk about it
- Plummeting of your confidence and self esteem
- Feeling like your entire world has fallen apart
- Feeling that reality as you know it may never be the same
- Rumination and obsessive thoughts
- Consumed with rage at your partner or spouse
The person you’ve entrusted with all your hopes and dreams isn’t who you thought they were – and you are devastated. It’s hard to know where to turn when you discover you are the partner of a sex addict.
Feelings of anger or rage, sadness, confusion, grief, and rejection are all understandable reactions to the Relational Trauma of Sexual Addiction.
You’re in sheer survival mode at this point.
I’d like to help
You’ve tried understanding, complaining, and getting angry, all to no avail. Maybe couples counseling has backfired, and now you feel lost, alone, confused, and in despair. You feel as if you are in traumatic shock and may literally feel sick inside. Maybe your mind’s in a daze — life seems normal on the outside, but feels far from it on the inside. Perhaps you’re experiencing things like:
- Depression or other inability to feel your emotions
- Distancing from your partner / isolating from friends
- Changes in eating or / and sleeping
- Feeling physical unwell or having panic attacks
- Being constantly on alert or on edge
- Having a hard time concentrating or getting work done
- Total lack of your own sexual desires
- Inability to stop thinking about what you’ve seen, heard or imagined
- Ruminating on what’s going to happen now
Whether your partner is currently in treatment for sex addiction or is refusing to seek help, for you this is a life changing event that needs and deserves support.
If you suspect you are a Partner of a Sex Addict, I can help you figure out what to do next.
We’ll work together to help you regain stability and clarity in your life and find your own path for healing.
I’m the safe place where you can talk freely in complete privacy, with full confidentiality.
Barbara Fane, LCSW, BCD
You didn’t cause this and you can get through it
I’m here to help
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